If we are not open to receiving, it won’t matter what positivity we are told, it won’t get through.
Coupled with this, we all have what is called a ‘negativity bias’, meaning we WILL accept the negative over the positive and ruminate on this.
So, telling ourselves positive statements is not nearly as important as what we say to ourselves when we slip up, make mistakes and fail.
Changing the destructive things we say to ourselves when we experience the setbacks of life is Key to getting through them with our self worth in place.
The majority of us don’t believe we are enough and, secondly that deep down there is something wrong with us, hidden away for others not to see – but we know it – we are sure of it.
What if, just for today, we told ourselves that we are amazing. The fact we are just getting through this life, this week, this day was truly incredible. And, that if we are getting through it without hurting others, maybe spreading a smile and love to others, we are contributing enough.
No one else is going to be your cheerleader 24/7. In fact, the times we often need cheerleaders the most are the times we only have ourselves to rely on. When we are going through tough times, most of us shut down and isolate ourselves, when in fact, going it alone makes it even worse.
So today, make sure, when you talk to you, you are saying positive, gentle, kind things about yourself – imagine you’re talking to a good friend, would you say the same things to them?
Treat yourself with kindness and forgiveness for anything you hold against yourself – you see, the moment you do that for yourself, the rest of us get the best of you – and doesn’t the world need that right now?