It’s one of the greatest and hardest things we will do. Heal.

A lifelong adventure that will bring you to tears but also to heights of great understanding of self. It is a getting to know oneself. A pealing back of all of the things we have learned and working out what is meaningful to us, what we are made of.

To do so, we must face ourselves. We must go inside. We must look to our wounds as triggers, gifts, signs of the areas that need care. These wounds will become the beginning of your wisdom. What is important to you, what makes you come alive? 

No one becomes wise through books or hearing it from others. It comes from our experience. Our wounds begin in childhood. They don’t have to be traumatic, although many of us have wounds that are.

The family crucible is where it all begins and where we need to start to understand self. Why we do what we do, react the way we do, feel the way we do. Write about it, journal it. Start by understanding yourself and from here we can see others.

In seeing our pain, we see the pain in others. In forgiving ourselves, we forgive others. We don’t excuse bad behavior, we recognize that it stems from acute pain. That hasn’t been healed.

Be a part of the healing. Stop the generational pain by fixing you first. Then we can help the next generation find kindness, compassion and empathy for this world.

Please remember, there are many people on our site who have been through the journey – and they are here to support you on yours. We really are not built to do life alone. In fact no one does it alone. We are made for connection, and many of us can not connect with those who are close to us for fear of judgment. If you can’t talk to your family or friends maybe you can talk with someone who has lived through something similar? We have compassion and empathy because we have been through it ourselves.

Make a booking to speak to one of us today.

All my love,


About Shelley

Shelley Buchanan is the Co-Founder of Kindarma. She is passionate about educating and empowering others who are on their own journey towards finding connection, joy and healing in their lives. Kindarma was created to support those who are in need of support whilst on that journey.

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