Solitude and loneliness are very different things. When we feel lonely, we feel unhappy and long to escape emotional pain. Solitude is a peaceful place. It is where we connect with ourselves.
We are not alone in our loneliness. It is more common than heart disease or diabetes. Yet, our shame around it means it goes unspoken – but we are more together in it than apart.
It is an inevitable fact of human existence. This sense that something is missing & that we are alone in our pain. We are more connected in our emotional needs than we are most anything else. The irony is that only together can we find ourselves.
Connection and belonging is the balm for our soul. It is wired in us for survival, yet the path to our higher purpose and meaning, can only be walked alone.
We look everywhere for it. Jobs, careers, romance, children, possessions. Just if I get this… then I’ll know who I am. That will be where the answer lies. In part, yes it will. These “things” will guide us. They help us understand that no amount of peace lies underneath them. The peace lies in us, in the stillness and the solitude.
In deeply knowing that beautiful, innocent, wonderful version of ourselves, that we’ve left behind, many years ago, we remember we are not lonely. Indeed we have ourselves, we have a strength, a drive, an understanding that we got us.
We have our own backs. We’ve made it through so much. However, it is not until we realize there is nothing ‘wrong’ with us that we understand this. To find this, we need connection, support and others.
In this realization comes the humility we all feel alone and the dance we see so many do is their way of avoiding the solitude we all must reach to connect with our hearts and souls.
The Kindarma community has been created for this very thing. Support, love and connection. Join us if you need to know you are not alone or if you want to help others to know we are alone together.